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1) Protecting Your Energies

 One of the best methods in clearing and protecting yourself is to use visualization. Albert Einstein said in a theory paper "Thought is energy, to create it, just use your imagination." There are two different ways to protect yourself with this method.    

  1. Simply surround yourself with white light, and imagine a force field being established around your physical body. However - to me this is equivalent to "trapping" unwanted stress, anxiety or negative energies within your physical body and inside your shield. So you might be blocking the external negative forces, but you're trapping your own negative energies that you create yourself, within your shield.
  2. The better method is to generate a protection shield from the inside of your being and "push" those unwanted energies out of your body and your energy pattern as you build the shield around you. This way you're clearing, cleansing and setting your shield of protection at the same time. You can even add a little step to this process to bring in positive Divine energy into your being to add to your well being or mental state of being as well.



The best cure for doubts is the Word!

You can't keep trouble from coming, but you needn't give it a chair to sit on.

You can't keep the birds from flying over your head but you can sure keep them from building a nest in your hair.

Doubt sees the obstacles,

Faith sees the way.

Doubt sees the darkest night,

Faith sees the day.

Doubt dreads to take a step,

Faith soars on high.

Doubt questions "Who believes?"

While faith answers "I".

Just a little bit of doubt, a little bit of fear, a little bit of complaint, a little bit of discouragement, can grow and grow until you're totally defeated and a terrible influence on others!

At the root of every doubt there is sin, the heinous diabolical sin of rebellion against God's will.

Doubts are monsters that devour & destroy you & things around you! They are the Devil's thoughts & Satan's words! -- And when you're doubting in your own mind, you're thinking the Enemy's thoughts! Loosing Your Faith? Contact me. Rev. Dr. Pat


3) What is the Demonic Witching Hour?

The Demonic Witching Hour is a legendary hour that mocks the Holy Trinity. It is 3:00 in the morning, which is believed to be the exact opposite of 3 PM, being the time of Jesus' death. It is when paranoia usually happens at night, whether is just a small occurrence or even a big thing happening. It's also believed that it is the time the demons "come out to play". Most Spiritualists use this time to their advantage. How many of you wake up at 3:00 am. for no reason at all?


4) Residual Hauntings.

Something Paranormal Investigators Don't want to here.

Residual hauntings are not really "hauntings" in the usual sense, because there is no spiritual consciousness attached to the ghostly happenings. Buildings and land can absorb emotional life energy from the beings that live there, and when atmospheric conditions are right, those energies can be re-released, causing all sorts of strange phenomena. You may see apparitions, hear voices, music, or footsteps. But unlike traditional hauntings, there will be no interaction between you and the "ghost". There is no ghost really, just a series of events "replaying" themselves, much like watching a movie. Often, spiritual cleansings can eliminate this type of haunting, since there is no actual entity causing them.


5) Earthbound Spirits

 When a spirit gets "stuck" on this earth plane, they are referred to as Earthbound. However, they are not really "bound" at all. Each of them can choose to move on at any time. Some of them choose not to, as described above. But others are truly lost, and do not know that they are dead. Spirits of this type usually get attached to a certain place (like the house they lived in at the time of their death) and refuse to leave. If you have the misfortune to move into the house, the spirit will likely not take kindly to you being there! Remember that they think it is still THEIR house. How would you feel if some strangers suddenly moved into YOUR house? I bet you wouldn't be too pleased!

Spirits will often try getting your attention by speaking to you, tapping you on the shoulder, or even throwing things. This does not mean that you have an "evil" spirit on your hands. Truly evil spirits are very, very rare. (I will talk more about those momentarily.) Rather, you have the spirit of an unhappy person on your hands. They feel you are invading their territory, and of course they will try to let you know that they are unhappy about it. Sometimes though, they aren't even unhappy about you being there, they just try to let you know they are there, period. They may cause certain physical phenomena to occur (moving objects, voices, apparitions, flashes or trails of light, shadows, footsteps, doors opening and closing, etc). Remember that it can get quite lonely being a ghost. Imagine spending years without anyone knowing you are there. Most people can't see or hear you. Then one day someone comes along that senses your presence, and you know it. Of course you'd try to let them know that you are really there.


6) Parasitic Entities

There are certain spirits that will latch onto the living, and actually drain a person's life energy. (usually a very gradual process) Like a tick, these spirits thrive at their hosts expense. There are many types of parasitic entities (sometimes called Spirit Attachments). Some are human, some are not. But all of them are equally dangerous. So, what happens if a parasitic entity latches onto you? Do you just drop dead because they sucked all of your energy away? No, not at all. But you may start feeling a lot of symptoms such as extreme fatigue and weakness, dizziness, clouded thoughts, lack of motivation and will, tendencies toward addictive substances/activities, poor sleep, nightmares, etc. (Note: just because you have some of these symptoms does not automatically mean that you have a parasitic entity. Get checked by a doctor immediately, it could very well be an illness or physical condition that is causing the symptoms.) Having said that, if a parasitic entity hangs on long enough, draining your energy away, illness will likely result, because the body no longer has the strength to fight it off. In some cases you can remove parasitic entities yourself, but sometimes you may need the help of a qualified spiritual practitioner.


7) Five Stages of a Poltergeist

Stage 1: Latent/Dormant/Passive Stage

Nothing all that remarkable occurs at this stage. In fact, most people aren’t even aware that anything is awry, and they certainly aren’t thinking their house is under the influence of a poltergeist. The activity is minimal and often dismissed as coincidence or a series of “freak occurrences.”

However, there are certain things one can look for in order to identify such phenomena. Animals are usually more in tune to paranormal activity than humans. As a result, your pet may begin to act strangely—for example, a dog may stare, growl, or bark at a spot when nothing is there. Another telltale sign is noticing cold spots, meaning the temperature will suddenly seem to drop in certain places for no reason.

Stage 2: Obvious/Detectable Presence

This stage occurs when those experiencing the phenomenon become aware that something is not quite right. Of course, this is not true of everyone. There are always those individuals who will continue to dismiss the unusual activity with the usual excuses, such as it’s all “just their imaginations,” “just the wind,” or caused by “the house settling.”

The cold spots will usually increase at this point. For example, entire rooms may suddenly be engulfed by frigid air, often more intensely in certain rooms than in others. Also, unexplained scratches, gashes, or cuts may begin showing up on walls and/or furniture at this point. Sometimes, one person in the house might start experiencing light but unexplained scratches on his or her skin. Needless to say, these are not good signs.

Stage 3: Increased Kinetic Activity

Probably the best way to describe a stage three poltergeist is that this is the “holy crap phase.” There’s no more ignoring the phenomenon by now, because its presence is far more obvious. You see, at this stage the really weird stuff starts happening. Most of the time, owners/inhabitants are finally convinced to seek out the help of a paranormal investigation team (or a religious figure) by this point. Can you blame them?

Lights and appliances sporadically turn off and on. Closed and sometimes even locked doors and windows may suddenly come open, and unexplainable rapping and banging sounds may also begin to occur. People in the house may begin to feel as if unseen hands are touching or scratching them.

Stage 4: Intelligent/Individual Targeting

This is where things start to get really, really scary, because the activity turns from disrupting to violent. At this stage, poltergeists often behave as if they’re targeting one or more specific individuals in the home. For unknown reasons, most of the violent activity seems to specifically target adults (especially parents) and teenagers in the home more often than young children.

Objects may fly at people from places unseen. Doors may suddenly slam in people’s faces (or into them) as they enter certain rooms. Sharp objects, such as kitchen knives, may even shoot out of open drawers. However, these often don’t seem aimed at anyone or at least don’t have enough force to be lethal.

Stage 5: Dangerous/Life-Threatening Kinetic Activity

If a poltergeist reaches this stage, you should get out of the house … right now. This thing isn’t playing around anymore and has the potential power to seriously injure, or even kill, someone in the house. The safety of everyone inside the house, no matter if they live there or not, is now in serious jeopardy. If you haven’t sought professional help by now, what in the heck are you waiting for—an invitation?

The scratches are now drawing blood from the skin, or ripping deep gashes through walls and furniture. Knives are flying hard enough to imbed deeply in countertops. And what’s worse, small fires spontaneously spark up in different places and spread out all over the house (fire extinguisher, anyone?). Needless to say, this stage is about as bad as a poltergeist can get … and they can get very bad.

The thrown objects now move with far more force, making them capable of serious damage. Also, the size and weight of the objects can increase. For example, the poltergeist may have started by tapping you lightly in the back with the occasional tossed, but still relatively small, rock. By stage five, it’s more likely to send a 40-pound dumbbell flying straight at your head.

Telling the difference between sometimes similar yet distinctly different paranormal phenomena can be tricky, but armed with this information, you’ll at least know if you’ve got a poltergeist on your hands. For more information on the paranormal, check out our Quick Guide How to Protect Yourself Against Demonic Spirits. Good luck, and be safe!


8) Spiritual Protection Techniques

Spiritual Protection is something that everyone should know how to do, regardless of our religious beliefs (or lack of). It encompasses far more than just ghosts & spirits too.


Negativity in any form can be damaging to the human energy field (aura). Fear, anger, depression, negative people/places, arguments and more actually create negative energy that can cling to you or build up in your home and cause problems over time. Spiritual cleansings are very important, for yourself and your home. I recommend they be done at least every few months, more if you find yourself feeling stressed or fatigued.


9) White Light Protection

One of the most important aspects of spiritual protection is "white light" protection. It's very simple to do, and maybe you've even read about it or done it without knowing it. It's very effective at removing and preventing negative energy from harming you. To do this, just visualize an egg-shaped sphere of brilliant white light completely surrounding you, from head to toe. Really focus on seeing it clearly in your mind, and keep building it up so it's SUPER bright and glowing. See it as a solid barrier of protection that negativity cannot cross. If you wish, you can also say a prayer of protection while doing this. You don't have to get fancy with the wording. Say something like, "God/dess, please surround me with a sphere of powerful, brilliant white light. Send the Archangels to protect me from all harm, and please send my Spirit Guides to guide me, guard me and keep away all negative influences."

You can do this for yourself, loved ones, pets, even your house and car! Before traveling anywhere, you can visualize this white light surrounding your car, and the occupants of the car. At night before you go to bed, visualize the white light completely surrounding your house and your family, preventing any harmful energies from entering. This should be done frequently, whether you feel threatened or not. Over time, this builds up a strong shield of protection that is with you always. And just keep reinforcing it, day after day. It's best to do this in the morning and again at night before bed, but it can be done as many times as you want, any time of day.

Clearing Your Home of Negative Energy

Regular spiritual house clearings are also important to remove any negative energies that may be hanging around. You'd be amazed at how that stuff likes to linger! See our House Clearing page for simple instructions on how to do this. You don't have to follow it exactly, or use the same exact ingredients. Get creative with it. Use your own wording if you want. Use whatever ingredients you have on hand, and don't be afraid to improvise. The most important thing is your intention that you are removing negative energy.


10) Have you ever stopped to consider what kind of energy you are sharing with others?By Pat Tucci

I'm sure you are aware that as we interact with one another, we share not only our physical space and our thoughts and ideas, we share our vibrations as well. You may also know that there are two main kinds of energy that resonate from our auras – the energies of electricity and magnetism. But did you know that each of these energies carries a different spiritual resonance? And that our actions often reflect these hidden vibrational components?


I have become acutely aware of my own energies these past months. I have made a conscious effort to connect more with the magnetic energy that resonates from my heart. Being what I call a “head” person, who has a decidedly mental focus, I have recognized that my challenge as I move toward spiritual integration is to become more heart-focused. If we wish to have greater alignment with our soul’s purpose, it is our challenge to “round out” the energies that we carry within our bodies. We must gain a balance between the “head” (electrical energy, associated with spiritual will) and the “heart “(magnetic energy associated with spiritual love).

Fulfilling Our Destinies

Once we are able to embody as well as to express a balance of both love energy and will energy, we begin to think and act with true spiritual wisdom. We become more aligned with our soul’s purpose and we can then begin to fulfill our destinies.


Gaining more heart focus does not mean becoming syrupy-sweet. I will probably never be one to hug trees and catch flies just to carry them outside to re-release them into nature. But I do expect to be able to show my softer feelings to strangers with less hesitancy and to express my compassion more openly. I expect my heart will guide more of my actions and I will listen to it as often as I listen to my head.


For those who already have a heart focus, the challenge is to align more with your spiritual will energy, the radiant energy that stimulates creation and activity. Spiritual will energy works through intuition, our inner guidance, and it encourages us to actions that have a higher, more spiritual purpose as opposed to a purely personal purpose.


Learning to balance these two energies – the love and will vibrations – will prepare us for the days and events to come as we move into the fifth dimension.


11) Demon or Ghost?Pat Tucci created a doc.

Here are some tell-tale signs that it is demonic:

{I must advise you that some of these symptoms may be side effects of medication or mental & physical illness. You must use discernment so as not to be "medieval" about these issues.}

  • seeing black humanoids or black dogs
  • ghost like entities with missing features {without  a face or eyes is common}
  • growling noises that do not have a source in this realm
  • being pinched, punched, or slapped when nothing is there
  • have you been sexually assaulted or raped by something invisible
  • are you held down or grabbed by something you cannot see
  • nighttime paralysis when awake & lucid {often associated with a manifestation/visitation, not naturally occurring sleep paralysis that occurs when you awaken before your soul has completely merged with your sleeping body which is equally as bizarre or frightening and can also have sexual or fearful elements.}
  • abrupt head pains or nausea that passes when sensing fear
  • scratches on your body when no one is there
  • anomalous voices such as preternaturally deep, very fast, or angry
  • becoming abruptly ill without cause
  • voices that seem to come from deep inside walls shouting your name, fighting or having orgies
  • a naturally sturdy person becoming weary or faint
  • regular daily fatigue setting in when you were normally healthy
  • beset by insomnia {this is also a symptom of demonic oppression. they break us down by keeping us awake for long periods to break our will.  We are much easier to influence after being kept awake for too long.}
  • Are you often seized with unexplainable fear that makes you feel physically ill
  • do you feel as if your organs [heart or lungs] are seized or made to palpitate by something that you sense to be evil  {this is odd for someone who does not have an ailment such as asthma or heart disease or hypertension}
  • suddenly feeling hot spots or freezing areas may also be a manifestation of a demon
  • items you use daily that you do not misplace disappearing, after losing your mind tearing apart your house for the fifth time are never found again
  • popping sounds often accompany demonic activity
  • Knocking or booming noises may occur in the foundation or walls of a home.  They have a muffled fx filtered sound, they sound synthesized or fake somehow. {often misdiagnosed as a poltergeist, which is basically a demon wanna be.
  • Are you a naturally cheerful person who is abruptly taken over by despair or rage {You consider yourself to be free of mental illness and have seen a psychiatrist}
  • Have you experienced being swiftly taken over by an urge to kill yourself {and you are not suicidal or bi polar}
  • Do your pets often growl or act fearful of something you cannot see {Animals see into spectrums of light or energy our eye's do not}
  • Are you suddenly plagued by suspicion of trusted friends and family without real reasons {Once again you have not been diagnosed with any mania or schizophrenia}
  • Are you suddenly experiencing aberrant thoughts {To be sexually savage or to rape & harm humans and animals}
  • Are you receiving vivid impulses to cut or hurt yourself  {Doctors may diagnose this as a symptom of trauma but this is also a trait of demonic assault}
  • sudden putrid smells of death or smells of sulfur {this isn't just something that happens on "Supernatural"}

 Reality check: It is logical to say that there are millions of demons, probably more.  They are extremely territorial, and clever. Diabolical's [Fallen Angel's] have an incomprehensible intelligence, whilst demon'sbeing much baser creatures tend to be a bit insane. Keeping tabs on us, our weaknesses, and how to manipulate or mentally unravel us is not an obstacle for them.  Rather it's their favorite hobby and a passionate obsession.  It's their mission. Demons can also hurt you more then just a nasty spirit. They are a carbon copies of Satan, but not as strong or smart. Be careful out there Investigators!


12) What are the rules of ouija boards?

  • Never use the Ouija Board alone!
  • Never use a Ouija Board if you are depressed,stressed,angry,upset,bored,
  • furious,sad,scared,afraid,shocked,overconfident,or drowsey as you could let a demon into your life!
  • If you get a demon,blessing the house could make the demon worse than it
  • already was!
  • Don't give the Ouija Board to someone else to give them problems!

  • Never use a Ouija Board if you still think it is a game

  • Never let the spirits count down through the numbers or go through the alphabet as they can get out of the board this way.
  • If the planchette goes to the four corners of the board it means that you have contacted an evil spirit or demon into your life!
  • You should never use a Ouija Board if you are a skeptic or an Atheist as you could get an evil spirit or demon!

  • If the planchette falls from a Ouija board, a spirit will get loose.
  • If the planchette repeatedly makes a figure eight, it means that an evil spirit is in control of the board.
  • If you should get an evil spirit, quickly turn the planchette upside down and use it that way.
  • The board must be "closed" properly or evil spirits will remain behind to haunt the operator.
  • Never use the Ouija when you are ill or in a weakened condition since this may make you vulnerable to possession.
  • The spirit of the Ouija board creates "wins" for the user, causing him to become more and more dependent on the board. Addiction follows. This is called "progressive entrapment."
  • Evil spirits contacted through the Ouija board will try to win your confidence with false flattery and lies.
  • Always be respectful and never upset the spirits.
  • Never use the Ouija in a graveyard or place where a terrible death has occurred or you will bring forth malevolent entities.
  • Witchboards are so named because witches use them to summon spirits.

  • The very first Ouija boards were made from the wood of coffins. A coffin nail in the center of the planchette window served as the pointer.
  • Sometimes an evil spirit can permanently "inhabit" a board. When this happens, no other spirits will be able to use it.
  • When using a glass as a message indicator, you must always cleanse it first by holding it over a burning candle.
  • Ouija boards that are disposed of improperly, come back to haunt the owner.
  • A Ouija Board will scream if you try to burn it. People who hear the scream have less than thirty-six hours to live. There is only one proper way to dispose of it: break the board into seven pieces, sprinkle it with Holy Water then bury it.
  • If you must use a Ouija board, make your own. Arrange the letters and numbers, into a circle so whatever is trapped within that circle can't escape.
  • If you place a pure silver coin on the board, no evil spirits will be able to come through.
  • NEVER leave the planchette on the board if you aren't using it.
  • Lecherous spirits from the Ouija board will sometimes ask people to do rather . . . ah, personal things. Ignore them and always remember that your Ouija partner (i.e.girlfriend boyfriend husband wife ) has nothing to do with this.

  • Never use a Ouija Board for "fun" because are being rude to the spirit who had really died and besides you don't want to make fun of death because would not want to or want to hear someone contact or offend a dead person for fun!
  • Never use a Ouija Board online for fun and be careful with these because will really contact spirits through the online Ouija Board because spirits use frequencies to teleport with!

  • Never force the planchete away from any where like jerking the planchete for instance or pushing the planchtete away from Goodbye other wise the spirit could get aggressive and/or violent or scream at you!

Three things never to ask a Ouija board:

  • Never ask about God.
  • Never ask when you are going to die.
  • Never ask where the gold is buried.



An incubus is a demon in male form who, according to a number of mythological and legendary traditions, lies upon sleepers, especially women, in order to have intercourse with them. Its female counterpart is the succubus. An incubus may pursue sexual relations with a woman in order to father a child, as in the legend of Merlin. Religious tradition holds that repeated intercourse with an incubus or succubus may result in the deterioration of health, or even death. Medieval legend claims that demons, both male and female, sexually prey on human beings - generally during the night when the victim is sleeping.


Victims may have been experiencing waking dreams or sleep paralysis. Nocturnal arousal or nocturnal emission could be explained away by creatures causing otherwise guilt-producing behavior. Then again, victims of incubi could well have been the victims of real sexual assault. Rapists may have attributed the rapes of sleeping women to demons in order to escape punishment. A friend or relative is at the top of the list in such cases and would be kept secret by the intervention of 'spirits.' The victims and, in some cases, the magistrates, may have found it easier to explain the attack as supernatural rather than confront the idea that the attack came from someone in a position of trust.


Dealing with Negative People and Energy Vampires

Negative people. They're like human black holes which suddenly come out of nowhere and just suck the life out of you. You try to stay positive and remain strong but their negativity ends up just completely draining you, you feel exhausted, and you may also start to feel depressed too.

So what can you do? One of the first things to do is to be aware of who the negative people are in your life. This may not be as easy as you first think.

Some very nice people are as Judy Orloff says in her book, "Positive Energy" are really energy vampires. Here's some of the signs she says to look for:


"- you experience a sense of being demeaned, constricted or attacked.

- you intuitively feel unsafe, tense or on guard.

- you sense prickly, off-putting vibes. You can't wait to get away from them.

- your energy starts to fizzle. You may feel beleaguered or ill."

She also refers to them by the following names which you might recognize: the sob sister, the blamer, the drama queen, the constant talker or joke teller, and the fixer-upper (requires endless help).

Also, pay attention to what the person talks about. Is it always about how bad things are? Do they just complain and never actually do anything about what's upsetting them?

Once you have a good idea on how to recognize them then you can actually work on protecting yourself from them. Here's 10 strategies on how to deal with negative people:


1. Where’s it coming from?

Do you understand why this person is so negative? Is it because they hate their job, feel frustrated, feel trapped in their life or do they lack in self esteem so the only way they can feel powerful is by hurting others? If you can understand where it’s coming from, it’s much easier to deal with. Some people seem to think that the only way they can get what they want is to be manipulative. Remember the saying, "the squeaky wheel gets the oil." They believe this and think that if they don't whine and complain that they won't be heard and that this is the only way to get what they want.

Remember that the negative behaviour is a reflection of them. It tells you what kind of person they are and what issues they may be dealing with. It's not a reflection of who you are.


2. Just smile and remain completely detached

Whenever the negative tirade starts just smile and don’t say anything. Remain completely detached from it and don’t get involved in it. Leave the room if you can. The negative person is simply seeking to get a reaction from you. That’s what they feed on. Don't let them catch you in their web of negativity because as soon as you do, that’s when they start draining your energy.

It's the emotions that these negative people stir up in you that you need to learn to distance yourself from. Try just observing the whole scene. Say to yourself, "what a shame this person is so unhappy. Maybe some of my positive energy will rub off on her. If not, her unhappiness has nothing to do with me." This isn't always an easy thing to do but definitely a powerful technique. In order to get the full benefit from it, you need to make sure that you're aware of what's going on around you. It's easy to slip into auto-pilot and not realize until later how drained you feel. You need to detach yourself from the event while it's happening and just observe it.

This works well for family members who you don’t really have a choice as to whether they’re in your life or not.


3. Say, “Now tell me something positive.”

Right after they've finished telling you some tragic story, say to them, "now tell me a positive story". Some people have no idea how negative they’ve become. That's what they're surrounded by day in and day out so it’s just become a way of life for them. By being given the reminder, they may actually realize that being negative isn't the kind of person they want to be and may start to work on becoming more positive. Or, they may decide it's not worth telling you their horror stories because you'll ask them to think of something positive. Sob sisters (always whining, feel the world is against them, feel they're victims) will probably not find you very attractive anymore.


4. Imagine a bright white light surrounding you

Yes, this sounds silly but if you can do it, it’s amazing how much of a difference it can make. You'll feel that their negativity can’t touch you because you now have a force field protecting you.

I used to have a really nasty manager who would constantly try to make me feel like an idiot. When I had a shower in the morning, I would imagine that I was being covered with a protective oil so that any of her comments would just slide right off me. I also put up a post it note on my computer that said, “Oiyli” which stood for “Only if you let it”. It reminded me that her comments could only hurt me if I let them. If was my choice as to how to react to her.


5. Is it a sign?

I find that the “universe” uses negative people as the way to get me to move on whenever I’m getting comfortable in a situation that isn’t challenging me anymore. It’s like a prod that I should be focusing more on following my dream rather than just getting caught up in a nice, comfortable routine that isn’t getting me anywhere. If I didn’t have these people, then I would probably just stay. So, sometimes I'm really grateful to these people because they're giving me the "kick" that I need.


6. What does it say about you?

Negative people want to get a reaction out of you. And the only way they can is if they hit on one your "buttons" or something that causes intense feelings for you. For example they may bring out past feelings of guilt or anger or make you feel like you're being rejected or that you're not good enough.

So, if there's one particular person who drains you the most, ask yourself why is it affecting you so much? Sometimes, you can learn a lot about yourself by analysing what feelings it's bringing up within you. Once you figure it out and deal with it then you'll find that the energy draining person simply has no power over you anymore.


7. Trying to feel needed

Is listening to the complaints of the negative person your way of feeling valued? Does it make you feel needed? If it does, then you need to start valuing yourself more and you’ll find that this just won't happen anymore. Be selective about who and how you help others. Just listening to negative tales over and over helps neither of you.

A good test to see if this is happening is to notice how you feel after "helping" someone. If you feel drained or tired or annoyed or frustrated then all you've done is given over your own energy to them. This isn't beneficial to you at all, and rarely does it help them in the long run.


8. Try saying, “I love you, thank you, I’m sorry” over and over

This is kind of an "off the wall" kind of theory but it’s worth a try. If you want to read an article about how a doctor healed an entire mental institution simply by saying these words then read this story: Dr. Len. You can also listen to a couple of radio interviews with him on News for the Soul.


9. It’s not your fault

You may be feeling that you have to solve the problems of the energy drainer. You’re not responsible for the person’s life nor their negativity. You don’t have to feel guilty for them being unhappy. Let go of trying to fix or help them. That's not what they want anyway. They want your energy and so you have to be strong and not give in to them.

A suggestion by Judy Orloff for dealing with draining co-workers is to keep mentioning to the person that you have work to do and you can only listen to them for a minute. If after a few minutes, the person is still going on about the same thing then either change the conversation or politely but firmly end the conversation.

It's important to be able to let go of the idea that you owe everyone a solution. With some people you just have to let them go. They have to take responsibility for their own lives and they won't if someone is always there to fix everything for them. So, Let Go! It sounds mean but it definitely doesn't help them if they end up taking you down with them. In that case, then neither one of you is benefitting.


10. Be enthusiastic and focus on your own energy

If you can be higher energy than they are then your energy will most likely start to rub off on those around you instead of the other way around. Also, the less you pay attention to them, the less they'll affect you.

In Summary

"Energy Vampires" are going to appear in and out of your life. The trick is to learn how to deal with them before they appear. If you don't then they truly will suck all your energy right out of you without you even realizing it. They will also be having a huge effect on your life and whether you're able to achieve your dreams and goals. Learn how to deal with negative people so that as Judy Orloff says you can, "be confident that no one can drain you if you don't cooperate". Your life will just instantly improve.